Igniting The Right Friendships For A Prosperous Life
In life, good friendships are some of the most valuable things that we can possess. And yet, many of us lack good friendships. Many of us feel that we have not found “our people”, so to speak, and are uncertain of how we can find those people.
When many of us were younger, making friends was a lot easier. We were at school, sharing classrooms with people who were the same age as us and, in many cases, possessed similar interests. Making friends was easy.
But, as time passes, if you haven’t found “your people” and created the right friendships, there appears to be fewer and fewer opportunities to do so. For a lot of people, including myself, it feels more and more difficult to create the friendships that we desire and to be able to share our lives with people that we genuinely love and support — and are, in turn, loved and supported by.
Without that sense of friendship, life takes on a more sullen tone. Perhaps, it’s just me, but without good friendships and good people, there is a certain inescapable sense that something is missing. There is a sense that something important is missing, something that is truly fundamental to living a happy and fulfilling life. But, maybe that’s just me.
What I’ve come to understand, as time has passed, is that much of our experience — perhaps all of it — is directly related to our thoughts, and the feelings that come from our thoughts. When I have felt a lack of friendship in my life, I can trace that back to the conversation that I am having with myself, regarding that sense of lack.
To create good friendships, all that’s needed is for the old conversation, the one involving lack, to be thrown out and replaced with a new conversation. Instead of conversing about the supposed lack of friendships, and the sense of feeling as if something is missing, we must converse about the wonderful friends that we have, the excellent friendships, the deep sense of belonging that we feel, and the love and support that comes from our amazing friends.
Even if we don’t have any genuine friendships in our lives, at that point, we must engage in a conversation that proclaims the exact opposite. Just the simplest and most basic change in thought is capable of moving mountains and transforming the very essence of who you are, what you see, and that which is around you.
To do this, I am going to give you a simple statement. This statement consists of three sentences, and with this statement, I would like you to proclaim it in your mind, once-a-day, and allow that statement to ferment into an Inner Conversation of some sort. If you do this just once-a-day, I guarantee you that you will have changed not only your world, but also yourself.
I Am So Blessed To Have Such Amazing Friends. I Am So Blessed To Be With People Who Love And Support Me. I Am So Blessed And So Grateful For The Amazing Friendships That I Have.
Take that statement, say it just once-a-day, in your mind, and allow that statement to turn into a series of thoughts — a conversation. Your thoughts and your feelings are creative, and they are capable of shaping the world around you and creating that which you desire.
In saying this statement and engaging in such a conversation, you transform the world around you, and you transform yourself. This desire for friendship, and the Inner Conversation that supports it, will lead to serendipitous encounters, hearing from old friends, and decisions that you would, perhaps, not normally make, but feel compelled to do so.
While I cannot speak on how such an Inner Conversation will affect you, what I can is that, in my own experience, I have found myself becoming far more open to conversing with people I meet in my day-to-day life and I have felt compelled to do certain things — going on walks, and even making a post on Craigslist — that I would not normally do. It all felt “right”, and it happened with such ease and naturalism. There was this sense of being guided and directed, in almost unconscious manner, towards the friendships and connections that I desired.
What I am asking you to do is, if you desire friendship, to engage with the practice that I have outlined. Engage in a powerful Inner Conversation, feel the friendships that are truly meant to be a part of your experience, and then allow those friendships to become a part of this physical world. In doing this, I know that you will find what you seek, and that doing so will be a truly natural and effortless process.